Thursday, October 1, 2009

The Newlywed and the Nutcase

I messed up. I made my sister cry and I don't know why. Well, I do know why... because I am a cold cow... I am a selfish, mean, cold cow. My little sister who I never see anymore, who is probably the most loving and refreshingly kind person ever, came for a visit and I really let her have it. Yes, I was cold.

A little over 4 months ago, the first of my siblings "bit the dust" so to speak and tied the knot. Someone had to be the first to go, and we were thrilled and so excited she'd found a fabulous someone! Who doesn't love a wedding!! She was the most beautiful, radiant bride in the history off all brides to walk down the isle. I may be a little bias, but I know that statement to be true. I was there; I saw her glow. Yes, she was the bride of my dreams.

However, it has been an interesting few months since that glorious day. Her marriage has changed the whole dynamics of my close nit family, more than even I had bargained for. That husband of hers has taken her away from me! AWAY FROM ME! I mean, packed up, moved to another state, locked her away, and thrown away they key. Ok, so maybe I'm being a little dramatic (a little too much Jane lately?). But apparently, I'm having a hard time handling it... I've missed her.

I miss her. When she is home she changes the whole atmosphere of the house. She has this love of life and this laugh! Well, its very fascinating to see up close. So, when she came home this past weekend for our older sister's birthday I really gave it to her. I told her exactly how I felt about the whole situation, that she had best better put forth more effort to come home more often and that she was basically on the brink of being cast out forever if she didn't change her ways! And when she started to cry I didn't even blink.

It wasn't my best moments... and I wasn't sorry for about an 3.2 minutes...

And then I was... And one phone call later all was forgiven.
But it made me think. Marriage really does change things. Your family who has been number one in your life for forever is no longer the number one. Your new family is number one. That's the way of life. That's what God intended. And its so perfect and so right. It made me realize how maybe I too need to make my future number one, my own number one.
Then God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him,
The Lord God said," It is not good for the man to be alone.
I will make a helper suitable for him."
Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of man,
and he brought her to the man. The man said,
"This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called woman for she was taken out of man."
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother
and be united to his wife and they will become on flesh.
~Genesis 1-2~

1 comment:

  1. Such a sweet post. I am so lucky that both my sisters live close to me, we see each other all the time. I mean, all the time. We appreciate that. Marriage does change family dynamics, it might be a bit tricky to find the way at first. I am confident you guys are well on your way down the path of a lifetime of love and happiness.


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